Lovin the Skin You're In

And are you really happy with what you know?

Are you finding yourself feeling good about your life, the people in it or your circumstances?  If for any reason "No" is the answer, then a self-check is in order! I’ve always talked about how important gratitude is for manifesting your heart’s desire but what if you really don’t like the skin you are in? Then what?

Well, I don't encourage anyone to be something they’re not because I know how futile that really is. But what I can share with you is that it takes time, patience and practice to become happy with yourself.  It's not the quick fix that some portray it to be or an overnight sort of thing.  In order to get there, one must have some sensibility in understanding that first, it’s indeed a process. It is a process of self-discovery, self-analysis, acceptance, forgiveness and unconditional love.  Then you can take it step by step, thought by thought, moment by moment in constructing this “new you” that you can be proud of and happy with.   As I’ve always said, at the end of the day – you have to live with you, what you did, didn't do and what you choose to do.  So why not start out feeling good and at peace about it.  

However, if you are not happy, then the first thing on the agenda is that YOU need to do something about it!  YOU are the one who has the power and control to change any circumstance, situation or decision that YOU make.   You can’t control anybody else.  You can only control YOU.  At first, loving one's Self from a balanced position (no ego trips) with confidence, self-understanding and respect can be one of the hardest things to do.  Why do I say this? Because it’s natural to NOT LIKE something about ourselves initially and also we are not taught to love ourselves unconditionally from the beginning.  We can easily lie to ourselves, can’t we?  And oh the lies we tell ourselves and everybody else who would believe it. But we can and do learn to fully embrace ourselves with full acceptance.  In the end, it’s how you really feel about yourself, what you do and how you do it which tells it all.  Not what you’ve tried to convince yourself of.

 Learn to embrace your uniqueness.  You are truly one of a kind.  There is a  saying, "  Great  minds think alike".  But what I know for sure is that no two great  minds are exactly  alike.  Diversity  is a beautiful thing and we are amongst a  wide variety of that on this  planet.  The list is endless  from our creativeness,  personalities, appearances, talents,  tastes, etc.   Who wants to be exactly  like  someone else? I know I don’t.   I like many of you  appreciate those I can look up  to and take  some positive direction from.  But I also know and understand that I too am one of a kind, just as  you are one of a kind.   We all are here  to express  our uniqueness with the opportunity to strive  beyond measure if we so choose.  No need to keep up with the Jones’, Smith’s, or the likes.  Do YOU and be the  best at it!  There are tons of role models and people who have made great contributions to society,  humanity, the planet, etc.  But there isn’t another like  YOU that can bring  a different  perspective, twist or approach to your life, or your  world.

 Learn to love yourself, accept yourself, embrace your whole self and be proud of yourself.   From the little things that seem insignificant to the great things that make a difference.  You are here to be the best that YOU can be.  In order to be  the best, sometimes you have to experience some things that you don’t like.  Doing so helps you to know the difference.  You will go on to choose to accept, change or tweak other things in your experience. Understand that no one is perfect but breathe in that realism and embrace it rather than (hear it) and then later judge yourself by it.